Approach to Parenting – Page 2

Parents’ Dilemma- To push or not to push

I am sure you have watched this incident play out at the swimming pool. The parent enrolls the child for swimming lessons. The 5-year old looks petrified as he gazes into the waters. The parent coerces and bribes the child to get him into the pool. “You are such a brave boy, go inside.” “When...

When children are thought to be manipulative

CHILDREN ARE OFTEN THOUGHT TO BE MANIPULATIVE- IS THIS TRUE? ‘She knows exactly who to ask to get permission, so that the answer is yes’. ‘He will do everything he can to make sure bed time is pushed by at least an hour’. ‘Did you hear what she said to me- making me feel guilty...

Forming an image of the child

Apoorva hears her children, Raghav aged 7 years and Ram aged 5 years fighting. As Apoorva rushes out to settle the dispute, she had many thoughts, ‘Both of them always fight. Raghav is such a bully, I hope he does not hurt Ram. Why are both of them so naughty?’ These thoughts are coming from...

Guilt and the working parent

Every working parent’s worst nightmare is leaving their crying, clingy baby, toddler or child and going to work. The heart ache at seeing our child like this makes us sad and miserable. There is so much guilt about leaving the child, be it at a day care, with a nanny or a grandparent. We blame...

Exposing children to the idea of privilege

Last December, our team at Parenting Matters underwent an intense workshop with our Mentor, Ruth Beaglehole , from Los Angeles. She has been in the field of Parent Education for over 40 years. Among the many issues she explored with us, awareness of privilege was one of them. We all spoke about it at length...

Why do we need to talk about parenting ?

Parenting –isn’t it something we are all supposed do by instinct? After all, generations have raised children without the help of articles, books, or workshops. So, do we really need to talk about parenting? Yes, we do!! We might all be parenting on what we think is instinct but it is really beliefs and practices...

Think positive and parent with positivity

Our thoughts have the power to manifest. influence what happens in our life. Positive thoughts generate positive feelings and experiences. This is not a new fad. Our grandparents told us that we are not supposed to think bad or negative thoughts as the ‘Thathasu Devathas’ will be passing around. These Devathas may bless us and...

Parenting the Ahimsa way

Ahimsa means ‘do no harm’. It is a well known concept in our country as many religions speak volumes about the value of Ahimsa. A shining example of the power of Ahimsa is the Indian freedom struggle in which we fought for independence without using violence. What if ‘Ahimsa’ were applied to parenting? The immediate...

It takes a village to raise a child

Before I had a child of my own, I’ve always wondered about this phrase, ‘It takes a village to raise a child’. Why would I want other people to influence my child? I wanted to raise my child with my values. I don’t need a village, I am a parent in the modern world, I...

A society’s role in supporting parents

There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children. Nelson Mandela These words invite us all to think about how we, as a society, treat children. Let us take this question a step further. What do we as a society do to support parents in...

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